Say No in a better way


Mahi to a two year old  Ryaan: ” For the fourth time I told you no. No Cookies!!, you already had too many since morning! Go & play with your toys.”

Rati, to a two  year old Raina: ” I know you want cookies, but it’s too close to dinnertime ,and I don’t want to spoil your appetite. Plus, we’re having your favorite pudding for desert tonight ”. I will buy you next time when we come again to this shop”.

How it sounds to you:) Does this happen daily in your home? Do you struggle daily with your child at dinner table?

It doesn’t has to be this way-

Which approach do you think the child will respond to happily?  The second one, of course. Why? Because it not only shows empathy but also explain the why behind the decision. Researches shows that 45 % of kids responds negatively and shut down their appetite when explained consecutively. There is always a better way to say no to your kids to unhealthy eating.

A common approach to feeding is ”Eat it now”, or ”why don’t you eat what I make” whereby the parent sets and enforces rules around food and eating, with minimal regard for the child’s food preferences or hunger and fullness signals. The parents set high expectations around their child’s eating performance. According research, children raised with this approach loose sight of their own hunger and fullness signals. 

There is a Fearless Fact to ponder upon- Daily feeding practices parallel with an authoritarian feeding style include rewarding, restricting, and pressuring or prompting.

When parents constantly say no without explaining the why behind it, children are left frustrated and wanting more unhealthy food. So what’s the right way, what’s the right way to lay the foundation of healthy eating habits, & what’s the right way to make children learn how make better choices. I will take you through all:)

The most effective and resultant approach to feeding children is an authoritative feeding style, identified by responsiveness, to the child, structure and boundaries around mealtime, and respects for the child’s choice.

kid,” can I have a chips from the store’‘.

Parent,” Dinner is only in an hour from now, next time when we shop, you can get one”. 







All you need is Love at the Table.

Here are also some guidelines to raise a healthy eater for lifetime.

To sum up altogether, did you know, when we add some context and explains the child the reasons why it’s not good for them, it not only softens the blow ,it teaches children about balanced choices and lay the foundation of healthy eating habits. All you need to do is to ask your child” You don’t eat everything but taste everything”, and ensuring the opportunity to offer 5-6 time s a day wholesome diet.

 Are you struggling with your child’s erratic eating and don’t know how to handle? Let’s connect and help your child…I am always there to support you in your challenges. 




Comments (26)

  1. What to do when my child is healthy eater but others trying to spoil his habits by offering unhealthy food.

    1. Nindiya, you are the primary nurturer of the family, take the charge and say politely to anyone that you are on a mission to lay healthy eating habits in your child. That will surely work!

      Anything can be said if it’s said with respect 🙂

  2. Yes,I truly agree with your point of giving reasons behind every’ No’.But what if the child is not accepting ur reasons,what if the child is very stubborn,what if the doesn’t have any patience .I even tried to divert his mind and brought him to a proper balanced diet but his desires overlooked them and led him to frustration.

    1. Tripti, I truly agree with your emotions. Its tough, hard, and seems impossible with extremely picky eaters.
      A parents job is to offer healthy choices and child’s choice is how much to eat. Don’t lose the opportunity to offer healthy 5-6 times a day ensuring nutrient-rich meals.

      Keep offering & be wise in that 🙂

  3. To satisfy n convince kids so that they can agree with u inspite of saying NO to them is an art
    Kids agree if approach is ryt.They are v.tender. they want luv n care from parents.
    If parents approach is correct tym to tym every kid vl say ok as u say Mamma.

  4. Say to NO to kid n kid is still hpy with u is Gr8 achievement. Its onli possible hw kid is being treated n trained at hm by parents. That requires lot of care n luv to kid so that kid vl say OK Mamma.u r RYT.

  5. Very nicely written. Thanks for sharing these important tips. Please keep writing. I love to read your blogs.

  6. Wow! What a wonderful post Deepti. Many times we parents miss the opportunity to bond with our children by not realising that it is tough for the child too, to eat what they don’t like. If we stay respectful, loving and flexible rather than being rigid or hard on them, we can definitely see results. Thanks for reminding such important point 🙂

    1. Thanks Saloni, so happy to know your thoughts. Yes, its tough but if we ensure the healthy offerings and give the choice to child to eat how much s/he wants, we will gradually help them to realize their hunger signals and to be happy eaters.

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