Mahi to a two year old Ryaan: ” For the fourth time I told you no. No Cookies!!, you already had too many since morning! Go & play with your toys.”
Rati, to a two year old Raina: ” I know you want cookies, but it’s too close to dinnertime ,and I don’t want to spoil your appetite. Plus, we’re having your favorite pudding for desert tonight ”. I will buy you next time when we come again to this shop”.
How it sounds to you:) Does this happen daily in your home? Do you struggle daily with your child at dinner table?
It doesn’t has to be this way-
Which approach do you think the child will respond to happily? The second one, of course. Why? Because it not only shows empathy but also explain the why behind the decision. Researches shows that 45 % of kids responds negatively and shut down their appetite when explained consecutively. There is always a better way to say no to your kids to unhealthy eating.
A common approach to feeding is ”Eat it now”, or ”why don’t you eat what I make” whereby the parent sets and enforces rules around food and eating, with minimal regard for the child’s food preferences or hunger and fullness signals. The parents set high expectations around their child’s eating performance. According research, children raised with this approach loose sight of their own hunger and fullness signals.
There is a Fearless Fact to ponder upon- Daily feeding practices parallel with an authoritarian feeding style include rewarding, restricting, and pressuring or prompting.
When parents constantly say no without explaining the why behind it, children are left frustrated and wanting more unhealthy food. So what’s the right way, what’s the right way to lay the foundation of healthy eating habits, & what’s the right way to make children learn how make better choices. I will take you through all:)
The most effective and resultant approach to feeding children is an authoritative feeding style, identified by responsiveness, to the child, structure and boundaries around mealtime, and respects for the child’s choice.
kid,” can I have a chips from the store’‘.
Parent,” Dinner is only in an hour from now, next time when we shop, you can get one”.
All you need is Love at the Table.
Here are also some guidelines to raise a healthy eater for lifetime.
To sum up altogether, did you know, when we add some context and explains the child the reasons why it’s not good for them, it not only softens the blow ,it teaches children about balanced choices and lay the foundation of healthy eating habits. All you need to do is to ask your child” You don’t eat everything but taste everything”, and ensuring the opportunity to offer 5-6 time s a day wholesome diet.
Are you struggling with your child’s erratic eating and don’t know how to handle? Let’s connect and help your child…I am always there to support you in your challenges.