What’s the parents job to end mealtime struggle & how they can overcome it?
Parents job is to offer healthy food options at every meal time. Its an opportunity for them to at ensures to offer 4-5 times a day, & it’s the child’s job to choose what & how much he will eat.
What works well to end meal time struggles is to check on your basic approach you use or manner when you interact with your child around food and eating. This attitude and your actions during mealtime have a profound effect on how your child eats.
The basic approach parents use or manner when you interact with your child around food and eating. These attitudes and your actions during mealtime have a profound effect on how your child eats.
Research defines, four common feeding styles: Authoritarian, Permissive, Neglectful, and Authoritative. Parents generally all four styles in a day to day feeding, but one style usually dominates. Iam sharing here little details about the feeding styles and how they show up to with kids.
Authoritarian Feeding Style is characterized by ‘just do as I say’, whereby the parents sets the rules and enforces, with minimal regard to child’s hunger signals. Parents have high expectations.
How this feeding style show up- Children raised with this style loose sight of their own hunger and fullness signals. They don’t know when to stop eating and ignore body signals telling its time to eat.
Permissive Feeding Style is characterized by parents’ oversensitivity to the hunger and fullness cues. Parents have low expectations. around eating behaviors and meal structure.
How the children show up with this feeding style- Children raised with this feeding style eat more sweets or high fat foods.
Neglectful Feeding Style is characterized by low sensitivity to child’s need around food and eating. Parents may fail to stock and shop for ingredients or to plan and prepare meals in a regular and timely manner.
How the child show up with this feeding style- Kids raised with this feeding style tend to be more insecure about food. They may overeat or under eat.
Authoritative Feeding Style is characterized by responsiveness to the child, structure and boundaries around mealtime and respect for the child’s food choices. The parent take care to ensure that meals and food are served on time, responds to the child’s hunger and fullness, allows reasonable choice around food, and never pressures to eat more or less.
How the child show up with this feeding style- These children tend to have a healthy weight, be good at self regulating food.
What’s your feeding style ?
Here are few important steps to help your child at dinner table and make mealtimes enjoyable again.
Don’t be a short order cook: When your child doesn’t want to eat what you have prepared don’t make the separate meal for them. Instead, have two standard choices available.
Don’t ban treats or desserts: When we deny our kids treats, the treats end up becoming forbidden foods, which makes all the more desirable. It’s important to balance the nourishing food and fun foods. When we allow kids have special foods, their desire for them tends to increase.
Don’t Force : Pressure increases the challenge and the mealtime gets even more struggling. Try to find out what your child is willing to eat. Getting kids involved in the kitchen will help them to try new foods.
Keep the daily feeding structure: The responsibility of determining the structure lay with the parents not with kids. Adding structure accomplish two things, it provide several opportunities for child to get adequate nutrition throughout the day, it also prevents major mood swings. Child eats for perfect reason: HUNGER
Give your child the message that you love him unconditionally and trust that he will make a healthy choices. You are the primary nurturer of your family . Take charge.
Happy Feeding !